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Welcome to my little corner of Al Gore’s Internet. I’m Jareesa - I’m a scientist, a freelance writer, a knitter, wife to LM, mom to #BabyPi, and more. I love Queen Bey, squishy yarn, watching GBBO, and attempting to bake. Sometimes I rant, sometimes I rave, but I always tell the truth.

Why You Don't Get Approached

I've been noticing a disturbing trend recently: a ton of women who lament that they get all cute & go out yet get no payoff in the form of attention from men.  They are flummoxed as to why that is....so I'm here to share some knowledge I've learned with the ladies. Reasons Why You Don't Get Approached:

*You go out in a huge group - Going out with 4,5,6+ women is the fastest way to not get approached the entire night.  While you see your group of friends as just a crew of ladies out having fun, a man sees it as more hurdles than a track meet.  Men loathe approaching a woman who is a part of a group.  When he approaches, all the women not being approached are gonna start hating (ladies, y'all know this is true).  That man is gonna be critiqued from his head to his feet as soon as he walks away, and most likely it won't be positive.  Not to mention, he can forget about trying to get your number or taking you to breakfast, cause your girls aren't gonna allow that to happen.  You want a man to approach you?  Go out alone or with one other woman - its much less intimidating for a man.

*You always scowling or frowning - Ever had a man tell you that you look mean?  You probably do.  Now I understand, that sometimes you need to have the mean-face on to ward away the undesirables (tho most of them aren't deterred by that anyway, but I digress...), but when you want to be approached & there are men in the area that you would like to approach you, why are you still walking around looking mean?  Smile, or at least look friendly.

*You avoid eye contact with the man you want - This one kills me.  I have one friend who is notorious for this...she'll see a guy she thinks is attractive, and then proceed to look away EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. he looks at her.  WTF?  What kind of sense does that make?  Ladies, when you're looking around the room, and you lock eyes with a man...DON'T LOOK AWAY!  Hold his eyes for a few seconds, and then smile.  Heck you can even wink.  The point is that you're showing him that you're interested in him approaching you.  A lot of men won't make a move unless you give them a sign that they aren't going to get shot down the minute they open their mouth.

*You spend the entire night begging for drinks - This is so not cute.  I have discovered that a lot of younger men just refuse to buy drinks nowadays.  I don't really blame them, Ketel One isn't cheap & folks abuse the privilege.  Sweating dudes for drinks all night makes you look cheap, & gold-diggerish.  Standing around thirsty trying to get a drink sponsor is so not the business ladies.  Buy your own damn drinks!

Have I missed anything?  I'd love to hear from the men on this one - what makes you NOT approach a woman?  Ladies, any tips for your sisters?

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