The Ups and Downs of My First Year In Minneapolis

In January 2010 I left Orlando behind & moved back to Minneapolis. I got a new job, and was finally escaping Florida, which I really didn't care for. I've loved Minneapolis since the first time I came to visit for college & it had been on the list of cities I could see myself settling down permanently in. This past year has had more than its fair share of ups & downs, maybe more than previous years in my life.

Let's start with the ups:

  • I reconnected with old friends & made new ones - When I first moved to Orlando it took me about a year to really start meeting people who I clicked with & it wasn't until my last year there that I really had a core group of friends. My experience in Mpls has been completely different; I was able to make some new friends pretty easily & reconnect with some college friends as well. That helped my transition a lot, I was active & engaged as opposed to sitting in my apartment bored to death.
  • I started making real changes in my life - I struggle with discipline & being able to sustain change in my life, and that was very apparent when I lived in Orlando. I wanted to work on 2 things - my health/weight & my finances. Being in Mpls I've made significant changes in both which I'm very proud of. Now that I no longer have close proximity to outlet malls & also more activities to do besides shopping, my finances look a lot better & I'm making progress towards my financial goals. On the health/weight thing, I've finally found a lifestyle that works for me & that I can sustain longterm, and so far I've lost over 40 pounds. I feel better, I look better, and my wallet looks better too #win.
  • My dating life got better - Dating in Orlando was a challenge for me, for numerous reasons that I've outlined in various posts. Basically, it just wasn't my type of place & I didn't meet a lot of men that I go for. That completely changed when I moved back to Mpls - I had only been back about 3 weeks before my first date with the attorney. Over the course of 2010, for most of the year I was dating at least one person, which was nice. Everything didn't go my way in the romance department but I had options, which was a plus.
  • I'm more involved in the community & activities - So far in my year in Minneapolis, I joined & then became the leader of a Meetup group for Black women. I volunteered for the Twin Cities Fringe Festival & had a great time. I've gotten involved in volunteer opportunities through my alma mater. I've been to all kinds of festivals & fairs, from Oktoberfest to the Anarchists Book Fair (very cool btw).

And now the downs:

  • I hate hate HATE the job I moved here for - Yes this is not a secret, I've blogged at length about how much I hate this damn job. In fact, I really feel like I made the wrong decision in accepting it. Yes, it got me out of Orlando, but I simply swapped my issues. I went from a city I hated but a job I enjoyed, to a  city I love & a job that's making me wanna slit my wrists just so I don't have to go. And that is unhealthy. I was so inpatient in wanting to get out of Orlando that I jumped at the first opportunity to leave and I regret that decision. So now I have to work extra hard to not go insane while I hunt for another job. I don't want to repeat the same mistake I made here, by going for the first thing offered to me, but I don't know how long I can last.
  • My heart was broken - 2010 was both an up & down year for dating for me. Yeah I dated a lot, but I definitely struggled in the dating department. First with the attorney, who I caught feelings for when he just wanted to be casual, and the Vegas dude, who I caught feelings for but I suspect I was just a rebound for him. So basically, catching feelings is bad business for Jubi cause they seem to not be reciprocated. *sigh* I haven't really been dating since the beginning of the year, my heart just isn't in it, or at least it's not up for another tragedy. So I'm just going to be on the sidelines for a while.

Overall 2010 was a pretty good year, more ups than downs. I've genuinely enjoyed being back in the Midwest, back in Minneapolis, and most importantly, out of Orlando. For the most part I've been happier, though lately the stress & unhappiness at my job has been taking over my life.

Here's hoping my second year in Minneapolis will be even better.