17. Switching It Up

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Photo by Tembela Bohle from Pexels


Happy Friday friends - we made it to the weekend!

This week I stood in my closet, looked at everything in my section, and declared that I have nothing to wear. Of course that isn’t literally true, but it feels that way. During this long winter I’ve worn the pieces over…and over…and over. I don’t even want to look at another sweater again! The chances of any more snow storms are low (knock on wood) so I’m going to switch over my closet this week. BTW, is that not a thing that people do? I mentioned I was going to do this on Twitter, and someone asked me what it meant! Unfortunately we don’t have the space for my entire wardrobe to live in my closet all-year round, so I have to switch things out based on the season.

I also need to pick up some new items and I’m approaching it thoughtfully this time around. Normally I’ll just go to the mall/browse websites and order whatever is on sale and cute (cause we don’t do full price ever). Last year I read Rachel Miller’s awesome Buzzfeed piece about how she gave herself a dress code, and it immediately struck me as a genius move. When I thought about my own closet, I realized that I actually wear a lot of the same stuff over and over, and some things in my closet are never touched. So as I switch over my closet and incorporate some new pieces, I’m doing it thoughtfully based on what items I actually need (either a staple piece or replacing something I wear regularly) and my personal style/what I enjoy wearing.

My preferred style is classic, almost borderline preppy. I don’t do a lot of prints but I love stripes. For spring and summer, I plan to wear lots of dresses, skirts and slim ankle pants with cute tops and maybe a cardigan as needed (cause yall know I stay freezing). For my shoe collection, invested in a pair of Rothy’s because everyone has raved about how awesome they are, and I picked up some cute flat sandals from J Crew. To round out my wardrobe I’m on the hunt for cute, delicate jewelry, and my look will be complete.

As I pack away my winter stuff I’ll donate my winter things that I didn’t wear this winter, so that I don’t make the same mistake next year.

Things I read this week:

A Troll's Alleged Attempt to Purge Porn Performers from Instagram (Jezebel)

Inside The World Of Stay-At-Home Moms Who Blog For Profit (Buzzfeed News)

Ancestry.com romanticizes slavery to sell you a DNA kit (MPR News)

The Mystery of Business Casual (The Atlantic)

How A Popular Women's Website Became A Pay-To-Play Nightmare (Buzzfeed News)

This Was Supposed to Be a Story About a Bizarre Anti-Vaccine Rally and a Sedated Bear. Then It Got Weird. (Gizmodo)

Is This the Millennial Parent Book? (The Cut)

Earth Day Conundrums (Design Mom)

Oh Uh-Huh, You Need To Wash Your Makeup Brushes. Here's How. (Jezebel)

Abigail Disney Scorches Wage Inequality at Disney: “Reward All of Your Workers Fairly” (Vanity Fair)

I Spent $17K to Freeze My Eggs—and I Regret Every Penny (Glamour)

What Does Being Basic Look Like in 2019? (Man Repeller)

You Can Opt Out of Facial Recognition Screening at an Airport (Lifehacker)

Reply All’s Brilliant Roman Mars Episode Messes With the Podcasting Industry (Vulture)

How airport scanners discriminate against passengers of color (Vox)

The Disciplines Where No Black People Earn Ph.D.s (The Atlantic)

In Defense of Hating Popular Things (MEL Magazine)

Amazon created the expectation of 2-day shipping. Now it needs to scale back. (Vox)

Your Debt Isn't a Personal Failure (Jezebel)

How Did Megan Thee Stallion Become the Next Hottest Rapper Out of Houston? (Vulture)

Other Stuff:

As this post publishes, I’ll be seeing Avengers: Endgame - I truly hope it’s as good as everyone says it will be! I’m actually seeing it twice on Friday so I hope it’s worth sitting through twice in one day.

I’m also volunteering for a few hours at the Yarnover, which is a conference hosted by the MN Knitters Guild. I recently joined and I thought this would be a good way to get involved with the Guild. I also expected to do some shopping but I realized that I have too projects on my to-do list, so I’m going to try to refrain from buying more yarn (but no guarantees!)

Need something to watch on Netflix? I really enjoyed Love Death & Robots.

I’m currently taking clients for both Career Mentoring as well as Ace the Interview Prep Sessions!

Enjoy your weekend!

Rethinking My Need To Be Thin

For many years I've had a love/hate relationship with my body. I had a slow steady weight gain in college, and then a rapid weight gain during the stress of graduate school. Over the years I've done Weight Watchers, Atkins and the Primal lifestyle with varying levels of success...but each time I've ended up gaining the weight back. For most of that time, I hid my body behind baggy clothes because I didn't feel confident in my size. I wasn't confortable wearing form-fitting clothes until just a few years ago. And even then, a cardigan that hid my tummy, hips, thighs and booty was my best friend. I just didn't think that cute things were meant for me, at least until I lost weight and got to a size that I thought was acceptable for those clothes. All those years that I walked around believing I was too fat to wear anything cute/tight/fitted, I also believed that I was too fat to get chose. I wanted to lose weight because I wanted to be someone's wife, but I was also afraid to do it. What if the reason I was single had nothing to do with my size? What if I did lose weight and was still single? I'd have nothing to blame my singleness on...and what would I do then? Remaining my size was somewhat of a security blanket, it gave me something to hide behind. People don't notice you as much when you're fat and you walk with your head down and hide behind cardigans.

Somehow I met my wonderful husband, and we fell in love. And he loves me just the way I am, at the size I am now. He is the first one to tell me that I'm beautiful consistently, and have me believe them. He constantly praises my body, and it feels good. I feel confident with him, in so many ways.

One day I was home alone just doing random things, and I had a thought hit me - what if I never got any smaller? What if I never lost another pound...would it even matter? What harm would it cause if I remained exactly as I am now? I can't worry about being forever alone because of my size, now that I'm happily married. Why am I waiting for this future time to enjoy all the fashion that I lust over on blogs and Instagram? Why am I holding myself back???

For months I've been lusting after the gorgeous plus size fashions I've seen displayed on various plus size blogs and Instagram accounts. I even got to meet one of my faves, Gabifresh, when I ran into her at my company on a random day. My absolute favorite blogger is Chastity from GarnerStyle. Chastity and I have similar body types, though I'm more hourglass than she is. I adore how she owns her shape and size, and she's not afraid to wear pencil skirts, fitted pants, etc. I also love how she's very honest and open about her clothing size and how things fit on her. After spending months reading, liking posts and finding inspiration, I thought...why can't I try out some of these things too? What's stopping me?

So I'm dipping my toes into the world of plus size fashion. I'm trying to challenge myself to try new things, whether its prints, or a different silhouette than I'm used to. And I've forced myself to not throw on a cardigan everyday, and instead put together my pieces in different ways. I'm getting comfy wearing fitted items, whether it's a mini-dress from Rebdolls, or a simple fitted tee and skinny jeans. I am who I am, and I shouldn't hide my body behind baggy clothes or look frumpy because I'm plus size. I'm cute dammit! I also signed up for Gwynnie Bee, which is a clothing rental service that specializes in plus size items. It's an awesome way for me to try styles that I wouldn't normally buy, with no commitment.

So now that I've shared my new viewpoint, get ready to see posts on outfits and how I'm overhauling my wardrobe! Check out some of the items I've worn...

Eloquii Skirt

Green jeans

AV Chambray Dress

GB Skater Dress