34. Changes

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Happy Friday friends! I hope you all had a great week!

It’s been a good six weeks since I’ve had the energy or desire to write here, but I’m very happy to be back! I took some time off in July and August to take care of myself and my family. I basically just went to work and went home - I wasn’t writing, wasn’t knitting, wasn’t hanging out, nothing. Basically, I was just trying to make it day by day.

Don’t worry, I’m not sick - I’m pregnant! Apparently going off the grid in the first trimester is just what I do, LOL. I did the same thing when I was pregnant with Josephine.

William and I have been trying for baby #2 for a long time, but it actually caught me by surprise when it actually happened. I learned I was pregnant the same week as my birthday, so birthday drinks for me :-( The first few weeks were easy but then beginning in week 8 I started getting really sick. So far this pregnancy has been harder on me than when I was pregnant with Josephine, but I’m surviving. I did have to go on medication for my morning sickness, and my heartburn has kicked in super early which is super fun #sarcasm. I’ve done a lot of sleeping on the couch and eating the most random things (when I can stomach eating anything). Thank goodness for William - he’s been so amazing taking care of me and Josephine as I’ve been sick so far in this pregnancy.

So far we don’t know what we’re having, but Josephine ordered a baby brother, LOL. Also we’re due 2/29 so we may have a Leap Year baby, which is pretty cool.

My energy is coming back so I’m excited to make my way back to writing, and knitting too.

Things I Read Recently:

I Found the Outer Limits of My Pro-choice Beliefs (The Atlantic)

Well this is bizarre - my new employee ran a background check on me and asked me about what he found (Ask A Manager)

A Tissue Sample From 1966 Held Traces of Early HIV (The Atlantic)

Remember That Trump Speech at the Pennsylvania Plant? Workers Had to Attend, Take Paid Time Off or Lose a Day of Pay (The Root)

Why the Coors Light "bra ad" is groundbreaking (The AV Club)

The New York Times 1619 Project is reshaping the conversation on slavery. Conservatives hate it. (Vox)

Hard seltzer is this summer's biggest scam (SF Chronicle)

Lack of diversity in genetic databases hampers research (MPR News)

Brazil's President Is Full of Shit (Gizmodo)

How white women’s “investment” in slavery has shaped America today (Vox)

The Angle: What Happens When Hundreds of Parents Vanish (Slate)

The Car Seat Industry Helped Delay a Child Safety Regulation — Again (ProPublica)

Why Some Doctors Purposely Misdiagnose Patients (The Atlantic)

Leashes Are a Great Solution to Dangerous Runaway Kids. So Why Do Some Parents Judge Them So Harshly? (Slate)

By far the most heartbreaking story I’ve read in a long time - The New American Homeless (The New Republic)

Other Stuff:

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably seen the Internet lose their minds over this new chicken sandwich at Popeye’s. I’m here to tell you, it is 100% worth the hype. Both the classic and spicy versions are good, but I prefer the spicy. I live down the street from a Popeyes and I may have had three of these sandwiches in the last two weeks, #dontjudgeme. If you haven’t tried them yet, do yourself a favor and get one, stat!

Did you see the season finale of Pose? It was sooooooooo good! I may have shed a few tears at a couple of scenes. Really this entire season has been so good, with the exception of them killing off Candy - I didn’t Stan for her but we barely got to know her! Overall I adore this show and i’m so excited that we’re getting a third season. Also Billy Porter is a national treasure and deserves all of the things.

And speaking of TV, I highly recommend you watch the new season of Dear White People. The reviews were mixed but I really enjoyed it. Same with The Boys on Amazon Prime which I binged in two days. And i’m also 5 seasons into Nurse Jackie - I wish I had watched it when the show was airing, it was so good!

It’s the last weekend before Labor Day weekend - where did the summer go?

Have a great weekend!

13. Like A Boss


Happy Friday friends!

2019 is turning out to be my personal “year of doing the scary shit”. For years, I’ve felt a desire to do my own thing, but I love the security of a corporate paycheck and benefits. I’ve also had major imposter syndrome and a fear that no one would ever want to pay for my knowledge. Well the Universe is always on time, and last year it started sending me messages that I need to pursue my passions.

I started 2019 by launching my Etsy shop, JTM Knits. I’d been itching to do it but I got the push when I knit myself a beanie and 10+ people asked to buy one. That led me to taking the 1K1Day course with Nicole Walters, which was a transformative experience for me. I really got a lot from the program, and I connected with some amazing entrepreneurs and learned a lot. Going through the course confirmed that I do indeed have something to offer and that I need to make it happen. So now I’m doing the scary thing and launching my first product - the Ace the Interview Prep Session. In this 60 minute session, I’ll work with clients to identify key experiences they’ve had in their professional career, and practice sharing those experiences in a way that helps interviewers evaluate if they have the right skills for the job. Basically, it’s an interview practice session with immediate feedback from me, based on my almost 15 years of working in several Fortune 500 companies.

To launch this product I’m offering 50% the session fee for the first five people who book, using the code INTRO50. To sign up, and to learn more about my other offerings, check out my professional website.

Things I read this week:

The ‘Men’s Liberation’ Movement Time Forgot (Vice)

Is It Ever Too Late to Pursue a Dream? (Longreads)

How Google Wiped a Neighborhood off the Map (OneZero)

Columbine Survivors Talk About the Wounds That Won't Heal (Westword)

‘Women Can Be Required To Wear Something That’s Painful.’ (Longreads)

How to quit Facebook without quitting Facebook (Vox)

One year after Uber’s fatal self-driving crash, pedestrians aren’t any safer (Curbed)

Cottage Cheese Is the New Greek Yogurt (The Atlantic)

Big Pharma’s Go-To Defense of Soaring Drug Prices Doesn’t Add Up (The Atlantic)

Is the Cradle Act Better Than Nothing? (The Cut)

Cancel Your Clothing Subscription Box. Love, Me (Wardrobe Oxygen)

Always Bring Stomach Medicine When You Travel  (Lifehacker)

The Underground Railroad of North Korea (GQ)

Why placeholder engagement rings are on the rise (Vox)

NFL’s minority head coaches weigh in on state of diversity in their ranks  (The Undefeated)

It’s Becoming More Evident: The Stress of Racism Is Killing Our Babies ... and Us (The Root)

“The Big Error Was That She Was Caught”: The Untold Story Behind the Mysterious Disappearance of Fan Bingbing, the World’s Biggest Movie Star (Vanity Fair)

Ta-Nehisi Coates Is an Optimist Now (Intelligencer)

High School Girls Say Hell No to Boys Ranking Their Looks (Jezebel)

I’m Fat and Not Fit—So Where Do I Fit In? (Self)

Things I’m loving this week:

I’m still cranking through my test knit - I’m about 60% done and I know I’m going to LOVE IT when it’s finished. It’s a shawl and I really love the pattern, and I can see myself making several of these either for myself or as gifts.

Also I’m coming to the end of my March No Shopping challenge - I’m glad I did it but I’m ready to get some new things for spring. I’ve been really struggling with my closet, partially because we’re in this weird time of year where it’s warming up but not completely warm so I can’t switch over my closet yet, but I’m SO TIRED of all the winter things that I’ve been wearing for months. I’m definitely ready to add a few pops of color into my wardrobe.

Enjoy your weekend!

9. Rescue Me

Remember when Snowmageddon was a thing? Well Minnesota is living through it’s own version of that right now and I AM OVER IT. February saw record snowfall, the snow banks are now taller than me, and if I had one more terrible commute cause idiots don’t slow down on the snow, I will lose it. I already took a warm weather vacation, which I greatly needed, so I need to figure out another way to deal with this never-ended winter. Maybe a staycation?

In the meantime, I’m knitting and working on a few things. Earlier in February, I sat on a career panel at work, and it went really well - so well, that multiple people have told me that I should be a speaker! It definitely has the wheels turning my head but as always, my imposter syndrome and fear is creeping in, but I want to explore it.

Things I read this week:

The Coming Care Crisis as Kids With Autism Grow Up (The Atlantic)

12 Of The Oldest Pictures From Black History In America (Buzzfeed)

employer requires women to wear perfect makeup — and writes them up if it’s smudged (Ask A Manager)

The Hard Lessons of Dianne Feinstein’s Encounter with the Young Green New Deal Activists (The New Yorker)

The Documentary Highlighting the Real Green Book (The Atlantic)

This Female Twitter Comic Was Actually a Man Pretending to Be His Own Wife (The Cut)

Another Gerber baby makes history!  (Motherly)

When Will Sex Work Finally Be Decriminalized? (Jezebel)

The Problem With a Fight Against Toxic Masculinity (The Atlantic)

Why One Dad Decided to Live on Expired Food for a Year — Food News (The Kitchn)

Sarah Cooper’s Non-Threatening Leadership Skills for Women! (The New Yorker)

Black Women in the Labor Movement Have Long Defended American Workers (Teen Vogue)

The Best Joke at This Year’s Oscars Was a Hidden One (Vulture)

An Open Letter To The American Left: Don’t Make The Mistakes We Did In Britain (Buzzfeed)

Why white school districts have so much more money (NPR)

The knitting community is reckoning with racism (Vox)

“I’m Afraid You’re Going To Die Because You’re Fat” (Fat Girl Flow)

What Happened When We Started a Feminism Club at Our Catholic Boys School (The Cut)

How Black Women Made GIFs Into a Language of Self-Expression (Broadly)

Things I loved this week:

This week I attended a Fireside chat with Melissa Butler, founder of The Lip Bar, presented by The Activate Network. It was a wonderful event and I picked up a lot of great gems from Melissa’s talk. I also got a chance to see some friends that I hadn’t seen in awhile.

For my Target run this week, I used their Drive Up service, which is incredibly clutch for anyone who has a small child. You use the Target app to order items, and select the “Drive Up” option when you check out. Then you just pull up and they bring it all out to your car! Also you can use Cartwheel deals for Order Pickup or Drive Up orders, which is a great bonus.

Have you seen the new Showtime show Black Monday? Its about the 1987 Wall St crash and tells the story of the year leading up to the crash from the perspective of one firm. I started watching because Don Cheadle is the lead, and I’d watch him act out paint drying, I love him so much. He’s great, as always, but I’m also really loving Regina Hall in the show as his righthand man/former GF. If you like Don Cheadle’s show House of Lies, you’ll love Black Monday.

Have a great week everyone!

8. Flying Solo


This February has been absolutely terrible. We’ve set a state record for the snowiest February on record and the month isn’t even over yet! The snow piles are ridiculously tall, it’s so cold, and I’m officially over it. On the plus side, my SUV has been super clutch this winter and I’m very thankful that I’m not driving my sedan anymore.

This week was busy thanks to work and other commitments, so I’m very glad we made it to the weekend. The husband is out of town so I’m flying solo with Phi this weekend, which should be fun. I’ll probably take her to the indoor playground for some playtime, but otherwise we’ll be hunkered down at home since it’s expected to snow again this weekend * sigh *

Things I read this week:

The Women Who Contributed to Science but Were Buried in Footnotes (The Atlantic)

My Wife Was Dying, and We Didn’t Tell Our Children (The Atlantic)

Boyfriend and girlfriend are out. ‘Partners’ are in. Here’s why more millennials are changing how they define their relationships. (The Lily)

Why “Follow Your Passion” Isn’t Always The Best Career Advice (Girlboss)

A Friendship Baked in the Great British Bake Off Tent (The Atlantic)

What Kids Are Missing By Not Reading More Authors Of Color (Role Reboot)

Meet The Beauty Influencer Who Isn’t Afraid To Say What She Thinks (Buzzfeed)

How ‘Fatal Attraction’ Forever Changed Our View of the ‘Crazy’ Other Woman (MEL Magazine)

Blackface Was Never Harmless (The Atlantic)

White Woman Claims to Confront Racism by Creating Racist Yoga Event; Clearly Doesn’t Understand How Racism Works (The Root)

my office has a burn book we all have to read and sign (Ask A Manager)

“When Nobody Knows You, Everything Is Potentially Damaging”: Amid Accusations of Staff Mistreatment, Amy Klobuchar Grapples with Minnesota Mean (Vanity Fair)

What It Means When Cardi B Refuses to Code-Switch (Man Repeller)

What Is Business Casual Style? (Putting Me Together)

Measles is back because states give parents too many ways to avoid vaccines (Vox)

Why women of color take more risks in the workplace (Quartz)

Things I’m loving this week:

After I read the Jackie Aina piece on Buzzfeed, I spent an afternoon watching a bunch of her videos - I see why she’s so popular!

Have you watched Umbrella Academy yet? You need to!

Have a great weekend and stay warm!

7. Escape


So…last week I had a post mostly written but then life got in the way and I didn’t get a chance to publish it.

Why was I so busy? I was packing and prepping for a long weekend in Tulum, Mexico. I’ve never taken a warm weather trip during the winter, but will from now on! It was glorious to enjoy sunshine and the ocean breeze, plus all the margaritas and tacos I could stuff in my mouth. Tulum is a gorgeous town and I will definitely be back to explore more of it.

The only sucky part of my trip was Delta putting my bag on the wrong flight, and then taking 24hrs+ to get it back to me. Luckily I found a shop with a dress that fit and some sandals that works, so it didn’t ruin my trip.

The highlights? A beach day at Casa Malca (aka Pablo Escobar’s mansion) and Burrito Amor.

Things I read this week:

Here's Everything You Need to Know About the Mommy Makeover (Allure)

Opinion | When the Suffrage Movement Sold Out to White Supremacy (New York Times)

The Best Movies That Lost Best Picture at the Oscars (Vulture)

Plain to Polished: Using Accessories to Pull Outfits Together (Putting Me Together)

The Global Legacy of Quebec’s Subsidized Child Daycare (Citylab)

Art Museums Need to Address Colonialist Theft—Not Diversity (Broadly)

She Started Selling Abortion Pills Online. Then the Feds Showed Up. (Mother Jones)

Here’s Why So Many Americans Feel Cheated By Their Student Loans (Buzzfeed)

Things I’m loving this week:

I took a rare solo trip to Target and I found this A New Day sweatshirt that is super cute, and it’s light enough to layer.

I started reading Keise Laymon’s memoir Heavy on my trip, and it’s really good!

This episode from Reply All had me on the edge of my seat

Enjoy your weekend!