40. Thoughts on Blogging


I started blogging way back in 2004 simply cause it was new cool thing and I needed an outlet and escape from the stress of grad school. The mid-2000s were the wild west for blogging and it felt like everyone got into the game and had a story to tell. By the end of the decade I was reading a ton of personal blogs and really enjoying them, along with continuing my own blog.

And then a few years later, I looked up and everyone just…stopped writing. At least the people that I read. And the few folks that were still writing were getting really big, and posting less, and more sponsored content. Now in 2019, the personal blog/essay landscape looks totally different than what it once was. I was reminded of this time period when I read “The 4 Personal Blogs I Still Keep Up With In 2019” on Man Repeller,.

When I started writing again, I enjoyed having a place to share my story. But over the course of the year I’ve become more and more wary. There are so many bloggers who share their lives online for clicks and retweets and sponsored content contracts, and it ends up as fodder for GOMI and r/blogsnark. Even innocuous things become things that people speculate on, or outright rip you to shreds over. There are a lot of bloggers/influencers who are out here pimping out their lives/kids/etc to make a buck but there are others who shared an organic story that others connected with on some level. This Buzzfeed piece highlights a lot of what I’ve been thinking about how much I share of myself, not only here, but on other websites where I’ve written for pay. I’m nowhere as famous as the people mentioned in that piece, or those gossiped about on r/blogsnark, but I am a person who’s shared some personal stuff with The Internets. Overall I’ve pulled back on how much I share in general - my IG has been a wasteland over the past few months with sporadic posts and zero stories. I share when I feel like, and right now, I’m not really interested in sharing much with folks. I’m definitely not interested in fame or fortune.

So who knows what will become of this space. Maybe it will just hold link roundups and the occasional thought I need to get out into the world.

Things I Read This Week:

Deadspin advocates for a shorter workweek and I really can’t disagree with their assessment

Apparently the BBC won’t allow you to say Trump is racist on air…interesting…

A designer has launched a new effort to make architecture schools less white

Who’s your emergency contact? Emergency services professionals have some suggestions for helping you choose the right person

I legit do not understand this story that’s basically the plot for The Orphan

What happens when DNA genealogy websites start sharing their databases with law enforcement?

Who else is a fan of DaBaby? He’s having a GREAT year

Gigi Hadid was NOT here for this runway crasher!

I love this story about burning a bridge when quitting a job - we need more of these!

White people have got to be stopped from doing white people things

Jemele Hill thinks Black athletes are finally starting to understand the power they hold

I listen(ed) to almost all the podcasts on this list of influential nonfiction podcasts, and they remind me why i got into the podcast genre

Poor poor kale, the saddest leafy green

I like and appreciate this marriage advice from divorced women

Gucci Mane serving as the brand ambassador for Gucci’s Cruise 2020 collection is the most 2019 ever (and long overdue!)

Other Stuff:

It’s getting cold! Fall is in full swing here in Minnesota which means it’s time for a trip to the corn maze and the pumpkin patch! Hopefully we can carve out some time to do that soon.

I think I’m going to need new winter boots this year - any recommendations? Given my “delicate condition” (lol) I need something that I can slip on, since the odds of me being able to bend over and get my boots on and off will be slim to none by the end of winter.

Guess who has finished exactly ONE winter hat so far? I gotta do better.

And finally, RIP to a true icon and legend, Diahann Carroll. Your examples of class, poise, and shadiness live on.