Fellas, Giving A Woman Your Last Name Isn’t the Prize You Think It Is

About a month ago, Chris Brown released the latest single from his new album, a collab with Drake. I like them both as artists (save your breath - not trying to hear why I shouldn’t listen to Chris Brown, thanks) so I gave it a listen when it showed up in Spotify. It’s a decent bop, the kind of song I’d expect from either of them. Then the video dropped and I found it entertaining, especially the little dance battle thing.


The other day this song came on in the car, and I finally caught something Chris Brown was saying in the hook…

I don't wanna play no games, play no games
Fuck around, give you my last name (oh)
Know you tired of the same damn thing
That's okay 'cause, baby, you

Yeah…I had a screw face at the bolded line.

Hey guys, I’m sorry to break this to you, but having your last name is not the prize you think it is.

It might have been a prize back in the day, but now? It’s 2019 and frankly, marriage is kinda antiquated and I say that as a married woman. Women don’t need marriage the way they did 20, 50, 100, 500 years ago.

  • The stigmas of single motherhood and longterm single life are both gone;

  • women outnumber men in college & grad school;

  • The pay gap is narrowing;

  • You can hire someone to do pretty much everything a husband does, including mow your lawn, fix things, and pipe you down;

  • Sex toys have gotten really amazing

I mean, any way you look at it, there are plenty of upsides to not getting married. But let’s say you actually believe in that shit and find someone who’s quirks you can tolerate? Be all means get married, but that doesn’t mean you need to give up your last name for his. It’s 2019, we off that shit. American women are finally catching up to the rest of the world and realizing how pointless and stupid it is to go through the stress of changing their name after marriage when they have perfectly good last names. Changing your name does not make you any more a family or committed to your marriage compared to someone who did change their name. It’s just an antiquated practice that (hopefully) Millennials is killing off along with buying blood diamonds.

I hope that men aren’t out here trying to entice women by telling them one day they could win the prize of their last name. I’d laugh in his face if a man said that to me.

You ain’t gon get her with the promise of your last name… Maybe come with something better.