2. Vision

Remember when vision boards became a thing, like ten years ago? I think I learned about them when that terrible book The Secret came out. I decided to try it out, cause it couldn’t hurt right?

I made my first vision board when I lived in Orlando. Back then my board had pics of cities I could see myself living in, a pic of Black brides I snagged from Essence, Black couples, etc. And then I put it up in my bedroom, where I could see it everyday. And then things started to happen. First I moved back to Minneapolis - one of the cities on my board. I started dating more. It took some time, but eventually LM slid in my DMs, and then I became a bride.

At the start of 2016, I made a new board - this one had pics of houses, SUVs, money (like stacks of cash), vacations and a little Black baby. I stuck it right next to my bed, so when I woke up in the morning & before I went to bed, I saw it. Within months, I had a new SUV, then we went on vacation to Italy…and then I came back to find I was pregnant. The house didn’t come until the end of 2017 and the money came in May 2018, when I got my new job.

So it’s safe to say that vision boards work, at least for me. I’m a believer. I’m a believer in the Law of Attraction, of focusing on what you want to manifest in your life. I spent the last week of 2018 going through my old issues of O Magazine (and buying a few others) so I could put together this year’s vision board. This year I decided to stick common things together, so I have a section on health & wellness, a section on family (with a picture of a baby boy!), a section for entrepreneurial wealth, a section for travel and a middle section to remind myself how awesome I am.

I’m excited to see what will manifest in 2019 and beyond.

Things I read this week:

When A Billionaire Needs A Boss: The Story Of The Jimmy John's Sandwich Empire (Forbes)

How Comments Became the Best Part of Instagram (The Atlantic)

Hennepin County’s first black commissioner swears in on 'The New Jim Crow' (City Pages)

Scientists Have Figured Out How Endometriosis Causes Infertility (Buzzfeed)

If only more of us were so lucky - Woman With Rare Medical Condition Unable to Hear Men's Voices  (Jezebel)

NFL hires in the Rooney Rule era As a new round of head coaches is hired this offseason, we look at the league’s push for equality and what the data reveal (The Undefeated)

Exclusive: New Report Shows Gentrifiers Use Police to Terrorize Communities of Color—Without Even Calling 911 (Jezebel)

Kamala Harris Wasn’t Raised to Talk About Herself (The Cut)

Michael has a lot of student debt, and he’s trying to free himself from it the only way he knows how: getting another degree. (Buzzfeed)

Sex trafficking victim Cyntoia Brown granted clemency after 15 years in prison (Vox)

These Heroes Are Saving Black Feminist Classics by Putting Them on Wheels (Teen Vogue)

Career Contessa's Best Advice for 2019 (Career Contessa)

The Ghosts of Best-Of Lists Past (MEL Magazine)

“Just Treat Me Like Any Other Mother”: What Queer-Affirming Doulas Can Provide New LGBT Parents (Autostraddle)

Who Doesn't Want Trees? Lots of Detroit Residents, and They Have a Good Reason (Gizmodo)

Rising Esports Star, 'Ellie,' Was Just Some Dude Pretending to Be a Woman (Jezebel)

FLAMES ON THE SIDE OF MY FACE - my coworkers complained that the look of my breasts post-mastectomy is making them uncomfortable (Ask A Manager)

Sandra Oh’s Golden Globes Speech Is a Master Class in Parental Gratitude (Vulture)

Christian Bale Brings Back Real Accent, Thanks Satan in Globes Acceptance Speech (Vulture)

$16,000 first-class seats sold for $675. Errors like these are more common than you’d think. (Vox)

This Woman Is Making Shawls Sexy, I Swear to You (The Cut)

Things I loved this week:

I know I’m late to the party, but I’m really digging Canva - it’s really easy to use and there are so many options for a wide variety of things to design, elements to use, etc.

Last week I took a tour of The Coven, a community and co-working space for women and non-binary people in Minneapolis. I instantly fell in love with it - it’s a gorgeous space that has lots of amenities and it feels like an awesome community. They’ve recently added a Social membership tier and I’m thisclose to signing up. I’m going to use my guest pass to get some work done, and if I love it as much as I expect, I’m signing up.

Looking forward to next week:

Just gonna be knitting and hanging with my little family….maybe have some tequila & girl talk with my friend C. Have a great week!

1. A New Year

2018 is now in the history books and 2019 has begun!

I spent my NYE at home, a little #NetflixAndChill with the husband. Smartest thing we did was put Phi to bed at her normal time, so we could get a little alone time .Facebook Memories reminded me of the NYEs of past - the year I partied in Atlanta (and made some bad life choices); the year I hosted a party & then drunkenly sent the Vegas dude an “I still love you” text - and it made me thankful that I can just chill at home for the new year, with my little family.

I also worked on my vision board and finished it on NYE, so I started 2019 full of intentions that will manifest throughout the year.

The holidays are over and we’re back to our normal routines, and it feels good!

Things I read this week:

I’d never heard of Robinhood but I’m fascinated by story of a launch that failed so epicly - The Epic Rise, And Fast Fall, Of Robinhood (3% “Checking and Savings”) (Chief Mom Officer)

Facebook's Sheryl Sandberg Was Supposed To Change The World With "Lean In." So What Went Wrong? (Buzzfeed)

My secret dream is to be a pop culture critic, so I loved this - Why cultural criticism matters (Vox)

I Watched 365 Movies in 2018, Even Though Nobody Asked Me to (Jezebel)

The Best Skin-Care Trick Is Being Rich (The Atlantic)

This hoe is crazy - A Mom Refused To Pay Her Babysitter Because She Got Ice Cream And 'Easy Kids' (Buzzfeed)

I’ve counseled hundreds of victims of gaslighting. Here’s how to spot if you’re being gaslighted. (Vox)

The Women of the New Congress Dressed to Honor Their Roots at Their Swearing-in Ceremonies  (Jezebel)

When A Billionaire Needs A Boss: The Story Of The Jimmy John's Sandwich Empire (Forbes)

Emergency medical responders confront racial bias (NPR News)

Things I loved this week:

I listen to a lot of podcasts, and i’m really picky. I love a podcast that has a good story, I don’t go for the shows where the hosts just talk to each other (with the exception of The Read). This week I listened to the first four episodes of the Nicole Walters podcast and I am full on obsessed! I’ve been following her on social media for a couple of years, and I knew bits and pieces of her story, but it was really refreshing to hear her tell her story about her family, moving into entrepreneurship, and being successful as an entrepreneur. Even if you don’t have (or don’t want) your own business, I think you’d find something valuable in her episodes.

A few months ago I read a roundup of Black skincare brands, and I discovered Base Butter. When I checked out their website, I was delighted to see they offer free samples of their Radiate Face Jelly moisturizer, so I placed an order to try it out. I got 3 sample packages, and each package has enough for 3-4 applications, so I could use it several times. I loved it so much that I ordered a full size bottle, and it’s become a staple in my skin care routine. Beyond being an awesome product, the customer service was top-notch. Definitely recommend!

Looking forward to next week:

Phi turns 2 on Sunday! I’m going to make her a birthday cake from scratch, and we’ll celebrate with a trip to Sea Life at Mall of America. I can’t believe my kid in 2!

Have a great week!

Weekly Rewind, Vol. 7-10 - I've Been Gone For A Good Reason!


It's been a MINUTE since I've written here, but I have a good excuse - we bought a house! Ultimately we ended up closing a bit later than we expected, but once we closed, everything moved into hyperspeed. We moved into our house a week after we closed, and since then we've been unpacking and getting settled. So that's what I've been doing instead of writing here each week, but I REALLY miss this space, so I'm back!

High of the past weeks: Moving into our very first house is top of the list of highs - it's been an interesting experience, but I'm really happy we've taken this step. And strangely, I really fee like an adult now, even more than when I got married or had BabyPi. Along with moving, we also saw Black Panther twice, which was everything I needed and wanted plus more. 


Stuff I've read over the past weeks:

Currently working on: Finding furniture and decor for our new house! 

Have a great week everyone!





Weekly Rewind, Vol. 6 - Olympics!

Photo credit:  Kevin Dooley , CC BY 2.0

Photo credit: Kevin Dooley, CC BY 2.0

Last Sunday was the Super Bowl and I was never so happy to see it come and go! I was...interesting to live and work in a city with the Super Bowl - I didn't partake in as much stuff, it was freezing, and I read later that some of the expensive parties were a ripoff. But my commute is back to normal, so yay! Now the Winter Olympics are in full swing, and I'm watching all the sports that I only see every 4 years - luge, biathlon, speed skating, curling, etc. 

High of the week: Got some REALLY great news - can't share details just yet but hopefully I will be able to share in next week's post.

Low of the week:  YOU GUYS, I had an ORDEAL this week that proved to me that changing your name is bullshit - I mean, I knew it was bullshit but this week proved it.

I discovered I have an old 401k from a job from 5yrs ago that I never did anything with. I'm a real adult now, so I figured I'd finally do something with it. Except I can't because the account is under my maiden name which is no longer my legal name. So I need to get it changed...which means I have to contact the Benefits center for my old company from 5yrs ago and get them to change it.

In order to do that, I either need to sit on the phone for 30+mins or I can try to recover my login details for the online system. I manage to recover my sign-in ID (yay!), but then I struggle a bit trying to reset my password. Manage to finally get that done and login...and then discover that I can only change address/email/phone online - to change my name I have to call. So I hop BACK on the phone and wait the 30+mins and get a very nice young man, who tells me they have to MAIL me a form to fill out. Luckily I can email it back to them with proof of my name change and then they will change it and then finally it will change with Fidelity.

If I had kept my damn name this wouldn't have been an issue. It was my choice to change my name, and I do like it, but I don't like the extra hassles that changing my name has caused, especially for stuff that I had completely forgotten about.

Anyway, how was everyone's week???

What I read this week:

Current pursuits: All things interior decorating! I'm trying to learn as much as I can, and look at all the pretty things on IG/Pinterest to get ideas and inspiration. If you have sites/tools that you love, please send them my way!

Weekly Rewind, Vol. 5

Photo credit:  Tony Webster , CC BY-SA 2.0

Photo credit: Tony Webster, CC BY-SA 2.0

We made it out of January, the month that seemed to never end - yay! Also it's Black History Month - yay!

High of the week: Gotta be the Chick-Fil-A opening down the street from my house! Oh and the Super Bowl has been in town so I suppose that was cool too.

Low of the week: Not getting out for all the Super Bowl events. I thought about it...but I'm old. And poor. And I have a baby and a full-time job. I would have loved to hit all the parties and whatnot, but I'm just not cut out for that life anymore. Oh well...

What I read this week:

Currently loving:

This week's goals: Same as last week! 

Enjoy your week!