3. Cozy

Photo courtesy of  Pixistock

Photo courtesy of Pixistock


We’ve finally hit that period in the winter when it’s just COLD. This year has actually been better than previous years, thanks to El Nino, but it’s still Minnesota, which means I’m keeping myself bundled up as much as possible. At this time of year, I love to cozy up in my fave warm clothing, with a blanket on the couch with a cup of tea and a good book, or my knitting needles. I haven’t had a lot of time to do that thanks to adult responsibilities and my toddler, but I’m hopeful that I’ll get some time to cuddle up in the house soon.

In case you aren’t following me on IG or Twitter (why aren’t you following me?) I have big news - I started an Etsy shop! Honestly I’ve wanted to do it for at least two years, but fear has stopped me every time. I had every worry - what if no one bought anything, what if people don’t like it, there are tons of people selling knits online so why would they buy mine, etc. But you know how the Universe conspires to bring you what your heart desires most? Well the Universe sent me messages through Cyndie Spiegel and Monique Malcolm (via last year’s Compact Camp), that gave me confidence to push through my fear. But the biggest push came courtesy of my friend network. After I posted a pic of a slouchy beanie that I made myself, eight different women reached out and asked me to make them one too! That was the Universe telling me “it’s go time” and so on January 2nd, I pushed that “Open Shop” button on Etsy and made it happen, yay!

My shop is JTM Knits and you can find it here - JTM Knits on Etsy

I’m continuing to add my inventory as I work through the hats on my backlog. My plan is also offer kids sizes as well!

Things I read this week:

Ellen DeGeneres And The Limits Of Relatability (Buzzfeed)

An Ode to Res’ Debut Album, How I Do (The Root)

Missy Elliott Will Be the First Woman in Hip-Hop Inducted to the Songwriter Hall of Fame (Vulture)

Career Advice From Crystal, the World’s Best-Dressed Operations Manager (Man Repeller)

Day care saved my motherhood (Motherly)

WTF? - my office is requiring us to disclose all medications we take (Ask A Manager)

Middle School Teachers Are Saints  (Very Smart Brothas)

✊ - Cops Can't Force People to Unlock Their Phones With Biometrics, Court Rules (Gizmodo)

Almost all of the actresses who’ve played Cleopatra have been white. But was she? (Vox)

Savage X Fenty Responds to Criticism That They're Selling Different Styles to Straight- and Plus-Size Customers (Teen Vogue)

Timely advice - Ask the Bitches: How Do I Prepare for a Recession? (Bitches Get Riches)

Driving Uber, freelancing, babysitting: shutdown workers scramble for cash (Vox)

The Unique Racial Dynamics of the L.A. Teachers' Strike (The Atlantic)

40 Self-Care Ideas For People Who Aren't Really Into Sheet Masks And Baths (Buzzfeed)

Totally implementing at least half of this list - 15 Tips From Marie Kondo That Have Genuinely Changed My Life (Buzzfeed)

Everything You Think You Know About Toxic Shock Syndrome Is Probably Wrong (Lifehacker)

A Call-In To White Feminists About "Surviving R. Kelly" (BUST)

R. Kelly and the Cost of Black Protectionism (The Atlantic)

Why Gillette’s toxic masculinity ad is annoying both sexists and feminists (Vox)

Romper Room: Serena Williams Serves a New Spin on Her Famed Catsuit at the Australian Open (The Root)

How Green Book and Bohemian Rhapsody Became This Year’s Oscar Villains (Vulture)

No One Is an Influencer If Everyone Is an Influencer (Jezebel)

‘Intensive’ Parenting Is Now the Norm in America (The Atlantic)

The Racial Wealth Gap Could Become a 2020 Litmus Test (The Atlantic)

White people assume niceness is the answer to racial inequality. It's not  (The Guardian)

CHANGE YOUR PASSWORDS - Mother of All Breaches Exposes 773 Million Emails, 21 Million Passwords (Gizmodo)

The Family Behind OxyContin Is Accused Of Pushing The Drug To Get Rich (Buzzfeed)

The best thing I read this week - Is Sunscreen the New Margarine? (Outside)

Things I loved this week:

The Tina Snow EP from Megan Thee Stallion - it’s been in constant rotation on my Spotify

Deadly Class on Syfy - I enjoyed the pilot so much that I had to get my hands on the comics!

I’m in love with the Twerk video (and free JT!)

You need to get into two new podcasts: The Nicole Walters Podcast and Ratchet and Respectable

SOCKS! I got a lot of socks for Christmas and it’s amazing how new socks are like an event - or maybe I’m just a weirdo LOL

On deck for next week:

Knitting, knitting and more knitting! Otherwise trying to stay warm!

Have a great week!

2. Vision

2019 Vision Board.jpg

Remember when vision boards became a thing, like ten years ago? I think I learned about them when that terrible book The Secret came out. I decided to try it out, cause it couldn’t hurt right?

I made my first vision board when I lived in Orlando. Back then my board had pics of cities I could see myself living in, a pic of Black brides I snagged from Essence, Black couples, etc. And then I put it up in my bedroom, where I could see it everyday. And then things started to happen. First I moved back to Minneapolis - one of the cities on my board. I started dating more. It took some time, but eventually LM slid in my DMs, and then I became a bride.

At the start of 2016, I made a new board - this one had pics of houses, SUVs, money (like stacks of cash), vacations and a little Black baby. I stuck it right next to my bed, so when I woke up in the morning & before I went to bed, I saw it. Within months, I had a new SUV, then we went on vacation to Italy…and then I came back to find I was pregnant. The house didn’t come until the end of 2017 and the money came in May 2018, when I got my new job.

So it’s safe to say that vision boards work, at least for me. I’m a believer. I’m a believer in the Law of Attraction, of focusing on what you want to manifest in your life. I spent the last week of 2018 going through my old issues of O Magazine (and buying a few others) so I could put together this year’s vision board. This year I decided to stick common things together, so I have a section on health & wellness, a section on family (with a picture of a baby boy!), a section for entrepreneurial wealth, a section for travel and a middle section to remind myself how awesome I am.

I’m excited to see what will manifest in 2019 and beyond.

Things I read this week:

When A Billionaire Needs A Boss: The Story Of The Jimmy John's Sandwich Empire (Forbes)

How Comments Became the Best Part of Instagram (The Atlantic)

Hennepin County’s first black commissioner swears in on 'The New Jim Crow' (City Pages)

Scientists Have Figured Out How Endometriosis Causes Infertility (Buzzfeed)

If only more of us were so lucky - Woman With Rare Medical Condition Unable to Hear Men's Voices  (Jezebel)

NFL hires in the Rooney Rule era As a new round of head coaches is hired this offseason, we look at the league’s push for equality and what the data reveal (The Undefeated)

Exclusive: New Report Shows Gentrifiers Use Police to Terrorize Communities of Color—Without Even Calling 911 (Jezebel)

Kamala Harris Wasn’t Raised to Talk About Herself (The Cut)

Michael has a lot of student debt, and he’s trying to free himself from it the only way he knows how: getting another degree. (Buzzfeed)

Sex trafficking victim Cyntoia Brown granted clemency after 15 years in prison (Vox)

These Heroes Are Saving Black Feminist Classics by Putting Them on Wheels (Teen Vogue)

Career Contessa's Best Advice for 2019 (Career Contessa)

The Ghosts of Best-Of Lists Past (MEL Magazine)

“Just Treat Me Like Any Other Mother”: What Queer-Affirming Doulas Can Provide New LGBT Parents (Autostraddle)

Who Doesn't Want Trees? Lots of Detroit Residents, and They Have a Good Reason (Gizmodo)

Rising Esports Star, 'Ellie,' Was Just Some Dude Pretending to Be a Woman (Jezebel)

FLAMES ON THE SIDE OF MY FACE - my coworkers complained that the look of my breasts post-mastectomy is making them uncomfortable (Ask A Manager)

Sandra Oh’s Golden Globes Speech Is a Master Class in Parental Gratitude (Vulture)

Christian Bale Brings Back Real Accent, Thanks Satan in Globes Acceptance Speech (Vulture)

$16,000 first-class seats sold for $675. Errors like these are more common than you’d think. (Vox)

This Woman Is Making Shawls Sexy, I Swear to You (The Cut)

Things I loved this week:

I know I’m late to the party, but I’m really digging Canva - it’s really easy to use and there are so many options for a wide variety of things to design, elements to use, etc.

Last week I took a tour of The Coven, a community and co-working space for women and non-binary people in Minneapolis. I instantly fell in love with it - it’s a gorgeous space that has lots of amenities and it feels like an awesome community. They’ve recently added a Social membership tier and I’m thisclose to signing up. I’m going to use my guest pass to get some work done, and if I love it as much as I expect, I’m signing up.

Looking forward to next week:

Just gonna be knitting and hanging with my little family….maybe have some tequila & girl talk with my friend C. Have a great week!

Weekly Rewind, Vol. 4

Photo credit:  Stewart Butterfield , CC BY 2.0

Photo credit: Stewart Butterfield, CC BY 2.0


And just like that, January is almost over. Let's get to it, shall we?

High of the week: I'm once again writing for A Practical Wedding! That piece that I submitted last week was for them. I also contributing to the weekly Happy Hour posts, providing the link roundup. I also attended a vision board workshop and made a new vision board for my 2018 manifestations.

Low of the week: The Super Bowl is coming to town! Or should I say, it's already here. For most folks, this is cause for excitement, but I am not one of those people. I work in downtown Minneapolis, and the Super Bowl Live fan experience thing is right in front of my building. My commute to work has become ridiculous thanks to the city shutting down streets so they could stage things for the various events. I get why they had to do it...but those of us who work downtown are now forced to suffer. This upcoming week I'll be working from home most of the week to avoid the traffic.

This week in self-care:

  • I finished Ready Player One! Once it got going, I was really into it and I couldn't put it down! I was lightweight disappointed when it ended, because it was so good. And while the end result was predictable, the journey to get there was so much fun. Now I'm wondering if I should have read the book first, because I'm sure the movie will disappoint in some way. 
  • I've made progress on my tablet case and I'm enjoying learning how to do colorwork. I'm very glad that I taught myself how to knit continental, so that I can have one color in each hand. It's easier than trying to have both colors in my right hand. So far my tension is good so I just need to keep practicing, which this tablet case will also me to do.
  • I did get out this weekend solo which was great - I went to a friend's party and had a great time. I love my little family but it's also good for me to have some time with other folks. 

What I read this week:

This week's goals:

  • Continue working on my tablet case
  • Cast on a new hat pattern
  • Eat out/get takeout one day this week (including weekends)

Have a great week everyone!